In between working for child support, participating in school programs, playdates, and households, there's no surprise being a single parent sometimes leads to social isolation. After all, you barely have enough time for your family, how much more friends?

But that doesn't have to be the case. Truth is, you don't have to navigate single motherhood alone. Having people who understand your experiences can change everything. Life becomes easier when you have people who cheer you on, who you can confide with, who support, understand and connect with you. These are your people — your tribe.

With a strong tribe, single parenting can finally be manageable. Yes, life may not get easier in the literal sense after divorce — you still have bills to pay and a household to run. But hey, at least you know you have people in your corner, ready to help and listen.



The Importance of Connection for Single Mothers

Have you heard of the saying, 'No man is an island'? Well, being a single mother can be exactly like that. Work, PTA, chores, and bedtime routines can make you feel like being cut off from the rest of the world. It can be so lonely.

As human adults, we are naturally longing for social interactions. But for many single mums without a partner, it is a common challenge. Hence, finding your tribe is crucial. This not just having a hand with school pick-ups or someone to ask for help for your baby for a couple of hours. More importantly, a tribe is having people who understand the ups and downs of single parenting. It's a sense of belonging. This is important for your mental health and emotional well-being. This way, finding a tribe is an act of self-care.

It helps to have people who get it, who have been there, and who can offer a comforting word or a good laugh when things get tough. Reach out and find your tribe. You might just find that the island isn't so isolated after all. There are others out there, ready to stand by your side, give you strength and face the challenges together.

They say it takes a village to raise a child. To do that, first, let's find our tribe.



Where to Find Your Single Parent Tribe to Fight Social Isolation

Local Groups and Meetups

If, at the moment, your social life is limited to your colleagues and your family members, you will surely benefit from checking out groups dedicated to single mums. They are a great way to meet other mums who are in the same boat as you. If you are lucky, there will be one in your neighbourhood, but you also might have to extend your perimeter a little. You might want to check out local community centres, libraries, or social media for organisations and meetups.

Online Communities

Of course, many of us are not as lucky to discover a local single mum group in our locale that can be our de facto tribe. Thankfully, there are countless online forums and groups for single mums to join. Virtual communities like these are perfect if you are looking for connection but can't find the time to attend in-person events. You can share stories, ask for advice, and speak with potential new friends from the comfort of your home.

Attend Events

Obviously, finding your tribe requires you actively seeking for it, not the other way around. If you want to find people, you have to squeeze in time in between your work and your kids. Keep an eye out for events geared towards single mums, like play dates, workshops, or mums' nights out. Such events provide a relaxed and comfortable environment where you can meet new people and build friendships.

Volunteering and School Activities

And finally, there's the PTA. I did mention before that your tribe is not going to be looking out for you, but the PTA will. You may find that getting involved in your child's school is another great way to meet other mums. I'm pretty sure the officials of your parent-teacher association will be excited to have you engage more. And if it does not work out with the officers, maybe you'll find more like-minded members who you would like to spend time with.

Here's a tip: be open. It can be easy to feel isolated as a single mum, but reaching out — even if it is awkward at first — can make a world of difference. Whether you decide to join a group, attend a meetup, or simply strike up a conversation, every step brings you closer to finding your tribe.



Steps to Find Your Tribe

Reflect on What You Want in Your Relationships

Just like when thinking of seeing someone new, take some time to think about what you really want in your tribe. Are you looking for deep, meaningful friendships? Or do you want a casual group to share laughs and tips with? Knowing what you need will guide you to healthy relationships.

Try New Things

Next, explore as many new activities or join as many different groups as possible. Yes, it can be scary, but trying something new opens up opportunities to meet many people who share your interests (and in our case as single mums, our burdens!). Whether a meetup or an online community, new experiences can somehow lead to great bonds.

Step Out of Your Comfort Zone

Meeting new people often requires stepping out of your comfort zone. It might feel awkward at first, but that's where growth happens. Attend that event, join that group, or start that conversation — you never know who you'll meet.

Reserve Judgements

Keep an open mind as you meet new people. Try to hold back on making quick judgments. The person who doesn't seem like a fit at first might surprise you. Give relationships a chance to grow before deciding if they're right for you.

Overcome the Fear of Reaching Out

There are people who make building relationships so simple. But if you are not like that, being nervous about putting yourself out there is completely normal. It's OK to worry about meeting new people or fitting in.

But remember, everyone struggles with this at some point. The key is to take that first step. Start small, be open, and give yourself grace. Finding your tribe takes time, but the effort is worth it.



Final Thoughts: The Power of Support to Minimise Loneliness

Having a tribe isn't just about having someone to hang out with but about building a network of support. It's about knowing you have people who care about you and your kids, who understand the challenges you face, and who will be there to help you through tough times. It is about having a group that celebrates your wins, no matter how big or small.

So, to all the single mums out there: remember that you're not alone. Your tribe is out there, waiting for you with open arms and a warm smile. Don't be afraid to reach out and find them. You've got this, and together, we can make the journey of single motherhood a little brighter.

If you're looking for a sign to build your tribe, this is it.